COMMON TRAITS OF STALKERS

Since the arrest of Royden Jones from Plas Madoc, Wrexham, for online trolling behaviour there’s been approx 10 twitter accounts created and 4 detailed blogs constructed using my details with the sole intention of discrediting me. I’m getting quite good at unearthing anything that contains certain codes which are a feature of online uploads. For instance the details deleted from any picture you upload are never really deleted. Every single picture online has a finger print.If it appears then it flags the host’s monitoring system. It only works if the host is monitoring though. So you need to be astute and alert as to what might be worth a peek. In my case I know what to look for so that’s where I focus my research and attention. My trolls know this and often play games with each other to try to avoid being discovered. Its a little game they play. In return, I track them, I see and I find. Then I share. 

Anyone who interacts with me or in my life is a possible genuine target for my trolls. They live me, eat me, watch me, shit me and try to be me. They are led and coerced by a simple person who’s featured throughout my life since November 2012 when he deceptively gained entry into the Laverty bubble. Do you think he’s regretting it? Never. Its given him a lease of life he could only have dreamed of. Excitement, discoveries, real experiences, a reason for getting up and logging on, a rationale to exist for. A challenge that doesn’t involve any effort, an easy goal, an accelerator for the mind, fuel for his fire, something to fill his memory sticks and drives. A hate figure, a jealous and inadequate opposite, a foe, a foe with potential(even worse). I am all these to him. All of my associates are these to him. The more the better. 

I’m his online life and I have chosen to live with that. Many have been targeted, the closer the contact the worse the trolling. No apology could satisfy the regret I feel for specific people and they’ve excepted that. We know we can’t turn the clocks back now. It’s a common theme for my type of troll to continue to attempt to dirty my name, my reputation etc., so expect more of the same. He’ll track record and data mine with his band of trollettes and trollowers. He’ll seek anything anywhere that associates with me and he’ll try to remain an influence in my life. His police bail is answerable on the 15th May. Will he be freed? Given the green light? Let loose on the Lavs? 10 twitter accounts and 4 blogs whilst on police bail? What’s the betting?  



COMMON TRAITS OF STALKERS

Stalkers aren’t evil looking people. They are often very ordinary, charming and intelligent. They are very convincing and able to manipulate others. They often have several of the following characteristics:
Obsessive and compulsive
Controlling
Falls “instantly” in love
Can switch between rage and “love”
Jealous
Narcissistic
Sense of entitlement
A bully
Manipulative
Deceitful
Blames others for his problems
Views themself as a victim of circumstances, society, family etc.
They need others to give them their identity or sense of “self”
Can’t take no for an answer
Has problems distinguishing reality from fantasy

FIVE TYPES OF STALKERS 

  1. Intimacy seeker – imagines fantasies about a relationship.
  2. Incompetent suitors – seek sexual relationships, are unattached males, social ineptness exhibits in odd behaviour. 
     
  3. Rejected – begins with the end of relationship. They initially want to reconcile and then can become resentful and often fluctuate between the two. The stalking creates an opportunity for contact and becomes a substitute for the lost relationship
     
  4. Resentful – passed over for promotion or could be legitimate, discriminated against but feel they have no power or recourse. Desired by motivation for retribution and sustained by the feeling of power and control for once.
     
  5. Predatory – the predatory stalker is sadistic. They gain thrill planning and carrying out the stalking. They enjoy the sense of control and power stalking gives them.  It is the is the violent sexual fantasies while they are researching, planning, and following the victim that excites them as they prepare for the ultimate thrill – the sexual assault itself. Serial rapist and peadeophiles are predatory stalkers.
     One of the most dangerous stalkers are predatory stalkers. But male ex-partners who were abusive in their relationship AND who suffer from delusions of jealous. They are convinced that their partner left them for someone else or they are going to find a new partner. The stalker thinks if I can’t have her then no one can.
However, all stalkers have the potential to cause physical harm. Victims should take precaution to increase their personal and digital security. They should also advise close friends and family to do the same as stalkers will also target those close to the victim.

Stalking is a brutal and devastating crime. It robs people of their life. The impact on victims is great with many suffering long term effects or PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). Victims need help to protect themselves, stalking to cease and to recover from the crime.
CYBERSTALKING
The term cyberstalking refers to a victim that is being abused online, but isn’t being stalked in the offline world.
The abuse will take place in social networks, online forums, Twitter, instant messaging or via chat. The stalker may use websites to post offensive material, create fake profiles or even make a dedicated website about the victim. They may sign the victim up to numerous websites, promotional material or place false ads using the victim’s email address and phone number.
It still considered cyberstalking if the abuse is via mobile phone. Smart phones have many features like instant messaging that allows user to create groups and spread gossip quickly about a victim. Inundating victims with text or voicemail is one of the most common tactics.
The stalker’s objective is to gather information about the victim, harass, humiliate, ruin their reputation or damage their relationships.
Cyberstalking is just as if not more damaging than “offline” stalking. When a person is abused verbally for example by the stalker spreading rumours. Those rumours will stop being repeated and eventually forgotten. However, if those rumours are put on the Internet they remain. That perpetuates the abuse. Every time a person reads those rumours the abuse continues it doesn’t matter if the original material was put up there two days, two weeks or two years ago. The victim continues to suffer.
The other aspect of cyberstalking that is devastating is the victim doesn’t know who is perpetrating the abuse, what their motive is or how to identify them in order to take appropriate action.
If you don’t know who your abuser is then you start to suspect everyone: friends, family, colleagues, strangers. Everyone becomes frightening. Victims withdraw become isolated, they become too frightened to go to work or even to the shops.
An example was a victim in London who had a cyberstalker. The stalker gave details of when, what trains she took to get to work and stations she used. The stalker then repeatedly threatened to push her in front of the train. As she didn’t know who her stalker was she continuous was afraid that they were standing beside or behind her. In the end she was so frightened that she quit or job.

DIGITAL STALKING

Today, most stalking now includes a “cyber” or technology aspect. Stalkers who stalk offline will usually assist their activities with some form of technology as a tool e.g. mobile phones, social networks, computers or geolocation tracking. This can be characterised as “digitally assisted stalking”, as opposed to cyberstalking. However like cyberstalkers, the abuser will use a many different types of technology to torment their victims. They may also use GPS tracking devices on a victim’s car. If they have or have had access to the victims mobile, they can put spyware that allows them not only to track the victim, but use the victim’s own mobile to listen into conversations or see what is going on via the camera.

THE TECHNOLOGY

The technology that is available to stalkers can be free, or cost up to £150 for GPS tracking device for a car. Social networks provide a valuable, free source of information for stalkers.
A friends list gives the abuser a list of people to contact, try to add them on their friends list or simply look at their Facebook wall and photos for information about the victim.
Another, cheap and easy way for a stalker to access information is to put computer spyware on the victim’s computer. It costs less £35 and is as easy to install as sending the victim an email.
Mobile spyware requires for the stalker to have or had access to the victim’s phone. This means victims being stalked by ex-partners are risk from this type of spyware.
Stalking behaviour often starts before the relationship breaks down so an abuser often has access to the victim’s mobile prior to them being separated. It isn’t only that this technology is inexpensive, it is easy to find.
A quick online search such as “spy on a computer”, “locate my phone” or “track my wife” provides a potential stalker with a list of products. A search for “spy equipment” shows retailers selling GPS trackers, listening devices, small spy cameras etc. Stalkers by their nature are persistent and will often find the time, money and learn the skills to use technology against their victims.

COMMON MISTAKES VICTIMS MAKE

  • Failing to accurately log incidents and keep evidence.
  • Not following advice on digital safety e.g. change passwords, clean computers and mobiles, not adapting your social network habits.
  • Not giving your stalker a clear message that you want the behavior to stop. You are not interested in any form of relationship.
  • Responding to your stalker in any way, shape or form. (Even negative response will encourage stalkers to continue)
  • Trying to reason or bargain with your stalker
  • Believing you can deal with it on your own.
  • Ignoring your instincts. The gift of fear is a warning sign something is wrong.
  • Ignoring the early warning signs
  • Not taking the situation seriously
  • Blaming yourself.
  • Not taking adequate safety precautions
  • Seeking a restraining or protective order without thinking of the potential consequences.
  • Failing to obtain support from others either personally or professionally, including family, friends, work colleagues and police
  • Expecting police to solve the problem and not taking responsibility your own safety
  
Gratefully shared by Jennifer
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